Prioritize yourself: Why is it important?
Hey lovelies! I hope you all are doing well! I know you all might have read hundreds of articles and posts on self- love and prioritizing oneself. All the articles tell only one main line-“prioritize yourself”. So I decided to tell my views on self- love. In the process of trying our best to fit into the expectations of people, somewhere, somehow, we lost touch with our original self. When was the last time you gave yourself the love that you deserve? Why are we so scared to do so? Why does it feel like a crime to prioritize ourselves? The main reason is we fear the label “selfish”.
Looking back we realize that most of our efforts of making a relationship work was just not worth it. And it hurts more when you discover that you are not you anymore. We don’t want to let go of people whom we care the most (even though they don’t put in the efforts; not even as much as an atom). And amidst these confusions and heart breaks, our “real me” gets lost in the vastness of this universe.
We tend to value people more than ourselves. We place them on the pedestal and shower them with lots of love and attention. Do they give you the love that you deserve? And most of the times, when we are blind in love, we act clingy and that irritates the other person (when they don’t feel the same towards you). So then they come up with various methods to get rid of us and in the end we are there, regretting and crying our eyes out. We can’t digest the fact that the person whom we prioritized the most left us without any explanation or closure. But let me tell you. Heart breaks teach us a lot. It makes us grow and brings out the hidden talents within us.
Give yourself the love that you expect from others.
Most of the times we tend to question our self worth, isn’t it? Because we don’t realize how important we are to ourselves. We expect others to see our worth and give us all the attention in the world. But we don’t realize that we have the ability to love ourselves more than the maximum limit that others can. So go ahead and hug yourself tight. Because no one else in the world is gonna do it better than you.
Do what you were procrastinating for months.
We all have goals and dreams but we tend to focus on the negative aspects because even if we don’t want to, we subconsciously get tempted towards thinking about the lose of someone who doesn’t even think about you even for a second. It’s a natural human tendency to mourn something that we can’t control. Instead we can focus(I know it’s very difficult) on something that can make our life better. Also, engaging in activities that we love deviates our mind from negative energies.
Feed into your mind that in the end your life depends completely on you and only you.
I know we all have put our self-respect at stake and shamelessly begged someone to take us back but the response was quiet disappointing. Their thousand no’s didn’t make us step back and we kept pleading over and over and over again. We are hesitant to accept the fact that they have decided to completely cut us off from their lives. We struggle to accept and move on. It hurts a lot but what hurts the most is seeing your life fall apart because of someone who doesn’t give a fuck about your life. Healing is slow and painful but at the same time, it is soothing. It takes time but if we accept the fact that our life depends on our attitude, then our life will be much better(I promise:) )…
We usually think about revenge to hurt the other person. We want to curse them from the top of our voice. But that urge to take revenge is going to ruin our peace of mind. Instead, sit back and take a deep breath. Live your life to the fullest. I know prioritizing yourself is a bit difficult task because as humans we think that others life matters more than ours. But it is not true. You matter. Your feelings are valid and you deserve all the happiness in the world. Believe in the universe (adjusts the invisible crown).