Marriage is not a necessity; it’s a choice.
Hey lovely readers! I hope you all are doing fine…Well, I decided to write about marriage because this is 2020 and still I hear people say ” She will go to some other house one day”, ” Graduation and all is fine but, learn cooking too”, “What do you mean you don’t want marriage?” and so on. I mean it’s deeply enrooted in the minds of people that a woman’s sole purpose in life is marriage and children. It’s really, really frustrating. By the time a woman turns 25, everyone in the family gets restless. After all, an unmarried woman is considered a black dot on a family. And I really can’t imagine how many forced marriages take place every year.
Let me make one thing very clear. I am not against marriage. I know that it’s a very beautiful bond between two people who love each other. A marriage is a happy one only when it’s out of choice and not under pressure.
So coming back to the image of an unmarried girl in the society, it’s really suffocating especially after you cross the age of 25. Suffocating, not because you are single but because of the nasty stares and comments and advices from nosy relatives and neighbors. And sometimes these unsolicited opinions influence the parents of the girl.
Are women not capable of having dreams and goals ? Are we born just because somewhere, someday a man will need a wife? Don’t we have the right to make our own identity just like men? What if we just don’t want to get married because we are happy without a partner? But no. Everyone is busy looking for suitable grooms. I mean WTF!!!!
The most common lines you will hear are:
- ” What will the society say?”
- “Your parents are getting old. Their only wish now is to see you settle and have children.”
- “You have a younger sister next in line.”
- ” You will need a partner later in life.”
- “A woman will need a man in certain circumstances.”
- ” Don’t let your daughter study too much. She won’t obey you later.”
- ” You won’t find such a proposal ever again. Get her married right away.”
Why “to settle” means get married. Why can’t it be paying your own bills, buying your own car or a house or just living your life on your own terms?
And I don’t understand why it is necessary for the elder daughter to get married first. Or the brothers aren’t allowed to marry until their sisters are married. It’s bullshit. I don’t understand any of these “rules” and I find them illogical.
Just let others live their life peacefully and make their own choices. Also, please mind your own business. We are capable of achieving anything we want and just keep your shit to yourself.
( I know it’s a rude ending but I am really sensitive to such matters.)
Repeating the title again – ” MARRIAGE IS NOT A NECESSITY; IT’S A CHOICE“
Also read: Society’s guide to being an “ideal girl”